Episode 1: Navigating Your Own Taboo Limits
Where’s the line between fear and fun? Fantasy and trauma? Exploration and harm? In this raw, thoughtful, and unfiltered conversation, Rachel sits down with friend and kink-creative powerhouse Georgina to explore the ever-shifting line between fun, fear, fantasy, and “too much.”
From emotional masochism to suspension, breath play, objectification, 24/7 dynamics, and the psychological minefield of shame and desire—we unpack what it means to walk toward your edges consciously and consensually.
This episode is a practical, deeply personal look into how to discover our boundaries, hold space for the uncomfortable, and recover when something doesn't go as planned.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I turned on because I’m healing—or because I’m reenacting something?”—this one’s for you.
What We Talk About
How fantasy writing, journaling, and scene debriefing can build self-awareness
How to use “How would you feel if…” scenarios to safely explore new ideas
The four-tiered safe word system Georgina uses (and why it's genius)
Submissive guilt, Dominant shame, and the internal work behind power exchange
Red flags, trauma triggers, and how to course-correct in the middle of a scene
Shame—where it comes from, and how to rewrite the script
What to do when a scene goes wrong—and how to come back from it stronger
The difference between psychological discomfort that leads to growth vs. damage
Emotional masochism and the art of wanting what hurts
Big Takeaways
“Too much” is personal—and you get to define it
Trust and understanding between partners are key in kink and BDSM.
How to talk about risk without killing the mood
Why relying on your gut isn’t enough—you need reflection, communication, and contingency plans
Fun is the filter: If it stops being fun, it’s time to pause or walk away
Knowing your body and emotions is your responsibility
Both tops and bottoms carry risk—physical, emotional, social, psychological
Reflection and repair are essential tools in growth-oriented kink
You’re not “too much” for wanting what you want—just take your time getting there
Listen If You’re Into...
Kink that deepens self-awareness
Reflecting on (or avoiding) Sub/Dom space, drop, and emotional fallout
Playing at your edges while staying rooted in consent
Taboo fantasies and the messy truths behind them
Integrating therapy and kink
BDSM that doesn’t pretend to be clean or easy
Georgina on the mic
“You should never play with someone you aren’t ready to forgive—because when you’re playing with real risk, forgiveness is part of the responsibility.”
Meet Your Guest
Georgina is a switch, rigger, emotional and physical masochist, and near-full-spectrum kink enthusiast with a sharp mind and an open heart. She brings a reflective, rigorous lens to BDSM—combining her lived experience with insight, self-work, and an unflinching commitment to making kink safer, hotter, and more productive.
Find her on FetLife as -Chocontail-.
Chapters
00:00 - Exploring Kink and Personal Identity
02:42 - Navigating Boundaries in Kink
06:41 - Understanding Readiness for Taboo Exploration
10:46 - Cues for Safe Play and Emotional Awareness
12:56 - The Role of Shame in Kink
16:50 - Finding Fun in Kink
19:37 - Learning from Experiences in Kink
23:33 - Respecting Emotional Well-Being in Kink
26:54 - Identifying Red Flags in Kink Dynamics
28:02 - The Importance of Fun in Kink
[Thumbnail Image Credit: -Chocontail-]
