The science of safewords: Language, limits, and reflection
Safewords aren’t just about stopping, they’re about knowing yourself deeply enough to speak when it counts. In this blog, we explore the emotional science of safewords: how they work, why they matter, and what they reveal about trust, trauma, and pleasure. From navigating edge play to dismantling shame, this is a tender, honest look at how stopping can sometimes be the most powerful way to keep going.
The Drama Triangle and power play: Are we healing or repeating patterns?
BDSM is built on power exchange, but without awareness, it can become a stage where we unconsciously reenact toxic dynamics instead of breaking free from them. Enter the Drama Triangle: a psychological model that explains the cycles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor that keep us trapped in unhealthy relationships. Are you surrendering from a place of strength, or because you don’t believe you have a choice? Are you leading with respect, or are you playing the hero to avoid your own shit?